Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. – Romans 12:9-10 NIV
I’m not sure what you do for a living, but there comes a point in everyone’s life where they feel invisible. Until recently, I was a stay at home mom who dabbled in a few odd part-time jobs over the course of the last 15 years, but nothing outside of my home. Needless to say I went from working a corporate job with yearly reviews to staying at home with babies who just cried, ate, slept and required hundreds of diaper changes. There was little to no recognition for “a job well done”. It has gotten a bit better now that I have preteens and teenagers. At least my son will come give me a kiss or a hug and tell me thank you a few times a week. However, most of the time I felt the things I did were invisible to those around me, except to my dogs and their never ending supply of kisses!
I didn’t miss my job outside of the home. But I did miss the accolades of hearing that I did good. I know that the love of my family should be enough, but sometimes it just didn’t feel like it.
One morning this past summer my husband had left for work and I got up to a note left on the coffee pot that said:
Thank you for dealing with things like the gas leak. You are great! Love you
Indeed we had a gas leak that required phone calls and repairs. But it was the fact that I was seen and my husband sincerely loved me and thanked me that filled my heart. He thought of me enough to take time to write me a sweet note that I still have today.
A few months ago I came home from picking up my daughter at school. At the door was a package of flowers. We opened it up and read the card that said:
Because you deserve it and because I love you!
My husband had surprised me with a bouquet of flowers not because of anything special. Just because I did all the things I do. He sincerely loved me and wanted me to know that I wasn’t invisible. I still have that note too.
We all want to be seen in this world. We all want to know that we are doing a good job. We all want to be sincerely loved by our family, friends, and coworkers. Words are powerful. They can help others feel seen and loved just as God sees and loves us.
Today think about someone in your life that has done something for you. Take a post it, write a simple message of thanks, and leave it for them to find.